In families, parents often face a frustrating problem: children agree to something but frequently fail to follow through, sometimes even making excuses. For example, they agree to leave the house in 10 minutes but are still playing when the time comes; or, after being given 30 minutes of screen time, they refuse to put away the tablet. This leaves parents feeling helpless and frustrated. So how can we help children learn to keep their promises? The following four methods may help solve this issue.

• Discussing Rules Together: Involving Children in Agreements

When setting agreements, involving children in the discussion is key. Instead of simply telling them what to do, allow them to take part in setting the rules. This not only increases their willingness to cooperate but also makes them feel important in the process. When both sides agree on the terms, children are more likely to follow through.Involving children in the discussion when setting agreements is key. (Image / Screenshot from Genius Leader)

• Repeating the Agreement: Strengthening Memory

When we tell children what to do, they often don’t listen carefully, leading to a high rate of broken promises. Instead of letting them casually agree, ask them to repeat the agreement. This strengthens mutual understanding and reduces future misunderstandings and conflicts.

• Reverse Time Management: Building a Sense of Time

Many children, especially those under six, have an underdeveloped sense of time. Parents can use the "reverse planning" method to help. For example, if the child needs to leave the house at 3:30, explain that before leaving, they need to use the restroom, put on socks, and pack their bag. This step-by-step approach helps children better understand time management and prepare in advance.

• Facing Consequences: Developing Self-Discipline

One reason children break promises is a lack of self-discipline. Parents should explain in advance that if they fail to follow the agreement, they must face the consequences. For instance, if they don’t put away their toys on time, they might lose their play privileges. This method helps children understand the connection between actions and consequences, teaching them to control their behavior.

Simply scolding children won’t solve the problem of broken promises. Instead, we need to find effective ways to support their growth, making parenting easier and more enjoyable. By using these strategies, children can learn to keep their promises, creating a more harmonious family life.

Original Source: Genius Leader